Anger is a natural feeling and a normal process. It isn’t a bad thing in itself, but it needs to be managed in the right way.
For some people anger can get out of control, causing problems with relationships, work and even the law.
Anger can cloud your thinking and judgement, leading to actions that are unreasonable or irrational, even escalating to physical fighting.
Because of the surge of energy it creates, it can feel pleasurable at the time, giving you a sense of power.
Everyone feels anger is justified when they’re actually angry, but when looked back on after calming down, they realise they have overreacted.
In a recent survey for the Mental Health Foundation, 28% of adults said they worry about how angry they sometimes feel, and 32% have a friend or relative who has problems dealing with anger.
Typical Symptoms and Signs
Do you get angry often? Everyone experiences anger from time to time, but getting angry more times than you can count, can be a symptom of an anger problem.
Do you hold on to anger for long periods of time? If so, then you could be causing yourself trouble. Being angry for a small amount of time can be ok – but staying angry for long periods of time can introduce health problems, or escalate into bigger issues.
There is no set amount of time to be angry, but it’s safe to say that being angry for most of your life, or for years and years can turn into something ugly.
Do you get angry about ‘anything’? We all have our so-called 'buttons being pressed' which make us angry and so there’s going to be something that can get us angry. Some of us however tend to fly off the handle over any little thing, on a frequent basis.
Are you allowing your anger to control you? Does everything you do, say, or feel revolve around anger? Going out of your way to avoid getting angry, or constantly being on the lookout for things that can make you angry, gives control to anger, while at the same time, letting it run your life.
Do you use anger to control others? It should go without saying, that using anger and fear tactics to control someone else is not only hurting you, but those around you. If people are walking on eggshells around you, this could be one of the symptoms of anger problems.
How intense is your anger? If you frequently find yourself getting so angry that your vision starts getting blurred, you get light-headed, or your arms/hands start shaking uncontrollably, you might be looking at a problem with anger.
Are you aggressive when you’re angry? Of course this is not a good sign. This is probably one of the most obvious, yet serious symptoms of anger problems, that are listed here. If you consistently express your anger by getting aggressive – physically or verbally – then seek the help of an anger management professional.
Treatment, Help & Support
If either yourself, a friend or a member of your family are affected by anger, book your first appointment with us now to see how quickly we can start to help you back on the road.
We pride ourselves on providing high quality responsive and friendly services, delivered by our Narrative Coaches who posess a wealth of experience.
We are usually able to see you for your first appointment within a few days of your request. Any subsequent sessions (if required) are agreed between yourself and your Narrative Coach, arranged at a frequency to optimise progress and to suit your own personal circumstances.
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